Love Your Husband, Love Yourself by Jennifer Flanders is a book that I have been reading for several weeks now! I am a fast reader, but this is not a crash-course in marriage that you can get through in a weekend. What a beautiful, in-depth study of God’s design for marriage this book is!
Written from a conservative Christian perspective, I must admit that I was more than a little surprised when I realized that fully the first half of the book deals with the physical relationship between a husband and wife. In the author’s own words, this is not a “How-To” book, but a “Why-to” book. In a very discreet and modest way, fully becoming of a lady, Flanders not only shares the Biblical mandate for a wife to meet her husband’s needs but also discusses scientific evidence (and shares personal stories) that shows the advantages of a wife meeting her husband’s physical needs on a regular basis. Want to know a way to look 10 years younger? Need some natural relief from anxiety, diabetes, heart disease, etc? I’ll give you a hint: There’s a compelling discussion about all this in the first half of this book, along with a fully scientific and well-researched (but very readable) explanation of how it all works!
The second half of the book deals with the non-physical relationship between a husband and his wife. I just finished reading Created to Be His HelpMeet by Debi Pearl with my Bible Study a couple of months before beginning this book and since both books are an examination of a wife’s Biblical role in marriage, I couldn’t help but compare the two books in my mind. Now, I really like Debi Pearl’s book and I have witnessed changes in marriages that can be described as nothing short of miraculous as a result of the wife reading Created To Be His Helpmeet. However, Jennifer Flanders approaches the whole topic in a much gentler way. Both women are direct and even discuss some of the same principles, but I found Flanders’ approach to be softer. I also noticed that the examples that Debi Pearl uses generally come from her experience in counseling women and tend to be extreme-case-scenarios, whereas the examples in Love Your Husband, Love Yourself are usually taken directly from her own life. As such they are more like my life and so I could relate better to her stories.
Overall, Two Thumbs Up for Love Your Husband, Love Yourself! I will definitely be reading this one again!
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